When Silence Doesn't Steal My Joy

In this episode, I reflect on choosing peace over reaction and what it really looks like to protect your joy when someone else chooses silence. Sometimes silence is meant to make you question yourself - but this is about learning to stay grounded without chasing explanations.

 This is an honest, unfiltered conversation about boundaries, emotional self-trust, and the quiet power of protecting your peace.

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Transcript

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This is Unfiltered Everyday Shit. I'm India Sherelle. This podcast is a space for real conversations about life as it's actually happening. The good, the bad, and everything in between. It's unfiltered, it's honest, and it's unapologetic. So let's talk about it. Welcome. I'm India Sherelle, and this is Unfiltered Everyday Shit. Talk about setting boundaries. Let me explain something to you. I refuse to let anybody steal my joy, not even my husband. I am telling you it's funny how things happen, but he was upset and decided he wanted to give me the silent treatment. And all that did for me was free up time for me to do what I need to do for myself. You wanna know why? Because that mean I didn't have to do No catering. You. I'm not going to be mad. Thank you. Gave me time to just do what I needed to do for me without worrying about you. Oh, I shouldn't have said it that way, but I can't help myself. It was really just that funny. I was like. It's okay. It is really okay. Anyway, I was able to accomplish so much. I mean, I literally just focused on me. I was able to do, I had some creative thinking. I was able to do some things I didn't think I can do. I'm not a techie person, but I was able to accomplish things and by the end of the day I was like, oh my God. It was all about me focusing on me self-care, and it wasn't necessarily about doing makeup and getting my head done, even though I tried to do that too, but it didn't turn out so well. I was able to do things I need to do. And then one of my old coworkers called me and I said, girl, let's meet up. Let's go meet up somewhere. She said, let's go. You always talk about going to that all you can eat spot. I said, yeah, little, little buffet knowing I cannot eat no buffet. But that's a story for another day. So we gets there. We generally have some conversation. Good conversation, just catching up. 'cause I hadn't seen it in about three weeks and then there was time to come home. And I came home what the thought process was, well, I guess he still ain't speaking to me, but what happened was I had no idea that he had called and I realized I didn't even realize that he called until the next day. So I guess he probably was really mad when I came through the door, which was okay. But I was, you know, I was happy. I was genuinely happy and I was, you know, like, yes, I accomplished so much. The day was about me. And I can't let your silence steal my joy. I can't let anybody silence, steal my joy for that matter. But what was funny is that when I woke up this morning and realized he did call me. I said, oh, his comfort zone was shift. His comfort zone was shifted. You wanna know why? Because when he normally leaves out this house, I don't ask no questions and he come back. I still don't ask no questions. His comfort zone is that I am still here, but yesterday was something different. 'cause when he got home, I was gone. It wasn't done intentionally, but I went on with living my day. And the fact that I didn't see his call wasn't intentionally, I just missed it. But I realized the call wasn't about really checking to see where I was. It was the fact that I wasn't home when he got here. And that was his comfort zone being shift. Well, it's okay 'cause what happened is when he leave out that house and decide he didn't wanna talk to me, I didn't chase him for clarity. It's okay. I didn't beg to find out what was going on. It's okay. I didn't let your absence turn into anxiety for me because it just gave me space to do what I need to do for me, and I didn't pause my life waiting for permission to feel okay because I'm determined. As I always say, I intentionally, intentionally, did I say that correct? Wake up with a choice to either be happy or sad and I'm gonna choose to be happy. People have plenty of things they can complain about in life and so do I, but why? Why walk around miserable all day? That's an awful space to be in. And I choose not to be in that space. I'll tell you one thing. You have to live your day. You have to show up for you, and you have to do things without permission. And the most important thing you need to do without permission is feel joy, be happy. Don't give that over to anyone else. Remember, boundaries aren't about controlling other people. They are about refusing to abandon yourself, and I'm not going to abandon myself so. I'll leave you with a question, something for you to think about when someone pulls away and go or goes silent in your life. Do you instinctly chase clarity or do you protect your peace, and what does that choice cost or give you? All right. This podcast is just freedom. This is me. It's an outlet, it's a voice. It's somewhere I can just speak freely. Thanks for stopping by and thanks for listening.